READERS MAIL: How Do I Live With A Man I Don't Love

Dear Ladun,

I read your blog every day and I want to commend you for a god job. My name is Mercy. I am a 29years old lady who is very successful in the corporate world. But this success seem not to be my portion in my relationship.

I met my first boyfriend online, I was 22(she just sent another mail that she meant 22. The story is real cus she is following your comments)years old and undergraduate still a virgin and I wanted to be loved. We got chatting and we told each other about ourselves. In the process I got to know that he is 11years older based in Dubai and already had a child out of wedlock. This didn’t deter our relationship as our love grew stronger.

He finally came to Nigeria to settle down and that was when I got disvirgined. Our relationship grew stronger and for the first time in my life I was selfless. And ready to do anything for him. This determination spoiled me to borrow him money on different occasions without complaining or even asking him to pay back. please not here LLBers that I was still a student so all these money was gotten from my parents. Click to continue..

3years into the relationship I discovered he started acting funny and started keeping secrets. But I decided to ignore them because I was so in love and could not bear the thoughts of losing him. After we had dated for like 5years I found out he re untied with the mother of his first child and that she was carrying his second baby. He tried to apologise but he was non-chalant about it and that was when I decided I have had enough and so I broke up with him.

2years had gone and I was not still in any relationship and my parents started showing concern because I am not getting any younger. A lot of guys asked me out after we broke up. But I wanted a Christian, a God fearing man so I declined. I finally met a guy in January that I think I like because he is a Christian and God fearing man. But I don’t love him as much as I loved my ex. I get irritated over little things he does. Things that don’t matter. The truth is he is a really good guy. A Christian and he is the kind of person my mother expects me to marry. 

My introduction is in a few weeks. And our wedding in 5months. It is certain that I am marrying this guy. But I still find myself thinking about my ex. I still love him. 

Dear LLBers how can I live with a man I don’t love. How can I tolerate him at home. Save a soul. The advice I need is how do I cope and tolerate him.

‘21 ways to love your husband’ & When will someone write 21 ways to love your wife?

1. Discover his favourite pet name and call him by that.

2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.

3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.

4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment and apologize. Explain to him why you behaved that way that made him angry.

5. Be quick to say "I am sorry dear". Whenever you offend him, ask him to forgive you and kiss him often. Please click to continue reading...

 6. Speak good of him before his friends and siblings.

7. Honour his mother

8. Insist that he buys gifts for his parents. Be sure that he will do the same for your parents.

9. Surprise him with his favourite dish especially when he does not have enough money at the moment.

10. Do not allow your maid to serve him food whenever you are at home, because you may lose him to her.

11. Hug him whenever he returns from work. Collect his luggage and help undress him.

12. Smile when you look at him and perk him occasionally when you are in a gathering.  

  

13. Praise him before your children.

14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.

15. Put a love note in his purse.

16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.

17. Dial his number and when you hear "hello" just tell him ‘I love u’.

18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him. He will not be enticed by any other woman that day.

19. Tel him how lucky you are to have him as your husband.

20. Give him a hug for no reason.

21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your life. Implement these laws.  Wake up and pray every morning with your family, it goes a long way.

Value your husband because you may not have the second chance to love him. Pray to God to protect him. If you practice all these, your husband will be afraid to cheat on you, even if he does his mind will not be at rest. If your husband is already cheating on you, begin to practice these and you will win him back. Do support it with prayers because nothing is impossible with God. I wish u a happy home and lovable husband.

Sorry I had to remove my little write up, lol. Some I respect so much asked me too. Hmm, we like pretending in this part of the world though. I rest my case, lol.

Girl Sends Pic Of Pointed Boobs To BF To Stop Him From Receiving Nude Pics From Other Ladies

According to the story, please read well o, before you start abusing me, lol. ‘According’ to the story I heard. They said a particular babe kept sending nude pics to the boyfriend of the girl in question (the girl with the pointed boobs) and so she decided to send a pic showing her pointed boobs to her boyfriend in order to remind him of what she has got. The boyfriend then sent it to his friends probably to see, and in one way or the other it’s on the internet and now on Ladun’s blog. You won’t see her face though. But it’s indeed pointed!!! Click below to see pic

Who is more heartless, the guy or the girl?

They both claim to be in love for 5years. All through their relationship, the guy kept insulting her, he beats her up publicly; molest her when she's not in the mood. He also slept with her sister and posted copies of her nude body all over the campus. But the girl stood by him and loved him even more. Her friends persuaded her and tried τ̅☺ discourage her, but she kept putting up with him and even helped him excel in all his lectures and exams.

On the final day of graduation, the guy was to graduate with a first class, a day filled with joy for her and him. He sent her a text and told her ''the relationship is over.'' ‘How cruel some guys can be! While waiting for his award at the convocation ceremony. The girl walked up to him and told him ''you are finished. ‘Immediately the VC announced and told the guy, his papers were not found, that he never did his registration during the admission process. He had to start all over again after wasting 5years of hard work. However...The girl was the brain behind the missing papers.  How heartless some girls can be!